Eruption des Stromboli (Isolde Eolie, Italien). Photo by Wolfgang Beyer, GNU Free via Wikimedia
Eruption des Stromboli (Isolde Eolie, Italien). Photo by Wolfgang Beyer, GNU Free via Wikimedia

I’d usually just reblog this one, but the reblog format is funky. So I’m just going to say this:

Shahida Arabi, via her Self-Care Haven blog, recently posted an excellent summary of 20 often-used Bully and NarciPath tactics.

I shared Shahida’sFive Ways Narcissists Get In Your Head” post some time ago, and mentioned her blog in my “Withholding as a Manipulation Tactic” post for the Empaths & Sensitives ‘readers favorite’ series (which spotlights other common tactics, like ‘leveling’, ‘off-loading’ and others as well).

The point isn’t to shame and blame — ’nuffa that going on — but to recognize the tactics and patterns so we can more easily step outside of them and respond rather than react from a place of awareness and greater resourcefulness.

That can be tall practice, but it’s worthwhile … particularly as we see the Bully Narcipath archetype in its full, gnarly expression pretty often these days.

25 Sep 2009 --- Castle Geyser with Rainbow, Yellowstone National Park, Wyoming --- Image by © Gustav Verderber/Visuals Unlimited/Corbis
25 Sep 2009 — Castle Geyser with Rainbow, Yellowstone National Park, Wyoming — Image by © Gustav Verderber/Visuals Unlimited/Corbis

For that, being the healing antidote is one form of subtle activism (and it of course informs other types of more traditional, less subtle action as well).

So take a look at Shahida’s latest post:

20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcipaths Use to Silence You

Thanks, Shahida — as we know, shining the spotlight on these helps us to walk The Beauty Way of Relating, and be more compassionate, graceful, and skillful.

Big Love,

Jamie