I’d usually just reblog this one, but the reblog format is funky. So I’m just going to say this:
Shahida Arabi, via her Self-Care Haven blog, recently posted an excellent summary of 20 often-used Bully and NarciPath tactics.
I shared Shahida’s “Five Ways Narcissists Get In Your Head” post some time ago, and mentioned her blog in my “Withholding as a Manipulation Tactic” post for the Empaths & Sensitives ‘readers favorite’ series (which spotlights other common tactics, like ‘leveling’, ‘off-loading’ and others as well).
The point isn’t to shame and blame — ’nuffa that going on — but to recognize the tactics and patterns so we can more easily step outside of them and respond rather than react from a place of awareness and greater resourcefulness.
That can be tall practice, but it’s worthwhile … particularly as we see the Bully Narcipath archetype in its full, gnarly expression pretty often these days.
For that, being the healing antidote is one form of subtle activism (and it of course informs other types of more traditional, less subtle action as well).
So take a look at Shahida’s latest post:
20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcipaths Use to Silence You
Thanks, Shahida — as we know, shining the spotlight on these helps us to walk The Beauty Way of Relating, and be more compassionate, graceful, and skillful.
February 24, 2017 at 9:32 pm
oh yeah, thanks for sharing! good to see you – crazy times, we are all challenged to step outside of the ‘reaction zone’ and watch – so that we may see more clearly, and not invite the nasties into our space, lol. be well – aloha – paz y amor
February 28, 2017 at 8:15 pm
Greetings, Elena, and paz y amor in plentiful supply. 🙂 True true true … crazy times, with plenty o’ the crazy arising (or erupting, really!), so the reminders are timeless. It’s vital to take good care, too, with the ‘energy hygiene’ and going gently, allowing replenishment time, and so on. May it be so that we step out of the reaction zone (and the shrapnel zone of others’ reactive eruptions!) and see more clearly through the eyes of the heart. How’s your shift unfolding? Well, I hope. xo Love, Jamie
March 1, 2017 at 12:51 am
thank you – and oh, your words are oh so true! implosions, explosions and definitely others’ shrapnel flying (as surely some of our own, yikes!) – duck, quick! and do NOT react to the reacting…breathe, have patience – LOTS of it, this has been a huge test over the eclipse, having little tolerance for button-pushing, lol. give me my space! as the load of bricks lands on ur head, ha ha. yes indeed, intense energies – yet we know we shall persevere and come out the other end ok. sending you all good vibes, energies and so much appreciation for who you are and what you do! en lak’ech aloha espavo Hermana xoxo, e
March 3, 2017 at 6:30 pm
You’re welcome and thank you, too, hermana! 🙂 And yes, the energies of the last week have been even more intense and amped up … that electrical ‘zap zone’ quality (bzzzt!) buzzing through the ethers! TLC yourself and your beloveds well. 🙂 Love, Jamie
February 27, 2017 at 4:12 pm
Reblogged this on Laura Bruno's Blog and commented:
Thank you, Jamie and Shahida. I’m reblogging Jamie’s comments, which then link to Shahida’s excellent article. As Jamie notes, narcissism is majorly and absurdly in our faces right now from so many corners. Learning (and reminding ourselves) how to recognize the signs allows us to move much more freely in our own power and discernment, helping us to know for sure what we do or do not wish to create in the world — rather than just accepting some prescribed version of who we are and what we value. Hugely important right now for individuals and civilization as a whole!
February 28, 2017 at 8:13 pm
Oh so true, Laura. Thanks for the reblog and rippling this very timely ‘intel’ out into the greater waters. I appreciated your intro comments as well. xo Love, Jamie
March 1, 2017 at 12:19 am
xo and Love to you, too!
February 28, 2017 at 5:05 pm
sometimes our seemingly biggest challenges
can transform into our biggest gifts
of we allow and accept
for it to happen
on it’s own accord
February 28, 2017 at 11:51 pm
Reblogged this on Forever Unlimited and commented:
Wow! I’ve never seen this type of person (malignant narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths) called out so specifically and accurately as in this list of modus operandi traits you may recognize from some of your interactions with family, “friends” or acquaintances. Good to know, so you can recognize what’s happening before the worst “psychic whacks” occur, so you can disengage and save yourself a lot of unnecessary grief.
March 3, 2017 at 6:29 pm
Thank you for reblogging and sharing this post, and Shahida’s work as well. It’s very true — there is also an energetic and psychic component to these outbursts and manipulation tactics, along with what we see and hear with our ‘five senses’. Blessings aplenty to you. Jamie
March 28, 2017 at 7:24 pm
Thank you for this important share Jamie.. xxx