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QuoteWorthy: Awakening the Unique Potential ~ Michael Meade

In his State of the Soul podcast, author, mythologist and storyteller Michael Meade shares this Wise Elder wisdom: "The heart of the human drama concerns whether we are moving towards a greater life or moving away from it. Either we... Continue Reading →

Luna-See: Moon-Fear Worldviews and the Invitations of Now.

Much has been written about yesterday’s full lunar eclipse of the sun, which was seen in all of its full glory along the totality path from Oregon to South Carolina in the United States. Even now, in modern-day writings, we... Continue Reading →

Making a Life With What You Have.

"You make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing." ~ Ruby in The Forgotten Garden (Kate Morton) This simple comment from Kate Morton's novel, The Forgotten Garden, could be a reflection in itself. Much of consumer-culture... Continue Reading →

Just Mercy and Compassionate Communication: An Elegant Message from Bryan Stevenson

"... if you're a teacher your words can be meaningful, but if you're a compassionate teacher, they can be especially meaningful. If you're a doctor you can do some good things, but if you're a caring doctor you can do... Continue Reading →

Energy Weather: Waves, Recalibrations, and NarciPath Management

I'm writing this on Day Two of our snow-infused Winter Wonderland here in New York, with at least two feet of fresh snow since the wee hours Tuesday. In case we were confused about it, Mother Nature has, once again,... Continue Reading →

QuoteWorthy: The Courage to Follow Inspiration

“I used to think I wasn't compromising enough. Now I realize in making the leap from mainstream technologist and marketer to an artist, I've consistently compromised vision and inspiration to the point its power is diluted. Following inspiration isn't sissy... Continue Reading →

Museworthy Quote: An Imagination Cleanse

"Imaginal hygiene is the inner art of self-managing the imagination, to defend it from forces that compromise, pollute, colonize, shrink, and sterilize it, and to cultivate those that illuminate, expand, and nourish it." ~ M. T. Xen, by way of... Continue Reading →

Today I Begin Anew

Today I begin anew. Over the last week or so, I found that message - Begin Anew - arising within and around me more than once. First it simply arose in my awareness. Begin anew. Then, as I was walking,... Continue Reading →

Mars: Power, Purpose and Shadow-Stuff

I wrote recently about Mars coming out of its retrograde, cave time, and vision quest (June 29). With Mars in the archetypal Scorpion-or-Phoenix zone just the now, additional key shadow possibilities include the hoarding-witholding typical of the Taurus-Scorpio shadow. With... Continue Reading →

The Believing Mirror Reflection

We’re born into this world already with just the blend of inherent traits, ancestral intelligence, and soul imperatives we need for this lifetime’s expedition. Some of this encoding is time-released, and some is latent until it’s activated by certain forces... Continue Reading →

On Slowing Down and De-Cloning.

“It is harder than it used to be because everything has become speeded up and overcrowded. So everything that slows us down and forces patience, everything that sets us back into the slow circles of nature, is a help. There... Continue Reading →

Cultivating Humanity: A Transformative Path

"Life is a mystery, a blessing, and a challenge. It is exciting and full of adventure, but can also be overwhelming or even tragic." "We are reaching several thresholds in our journey as human beings on earth. We need intentional... Continue Reading →

Leaning Into Your Strengths – Empaths and Sensitives Series

Here's the latest article in the Empaths & Sensitives Series here at Sophia's Children. This one takes a look at a couple of ways that Empath-Sensitives can "live into their strengths" and gain more mastery over the gifts, while being more aware and skillful in the face of the challenges of being an Empathic-Sensitive in a loud and often bully- and Narcipath-favoring culture.

The Truth of the Matter …

Anais Nin and the Mermaid Quote. Image courtesy of Creating Ecstasy.
Anais Nin and the Mermaid Quote. Image courtesy of Creating Ecstasy.

I deeply appreciate Laura’s perspectives shared here in her blog post.

As I jotted in her comments section, this post in itself (as are so many) is a portal or potential doorway into dialogue with “those who have ears to hear” and can actually have conversation on such things.

It made me think of a favorite Anais Nin quote (shared in the image) — a very “Scorpio-Pluto” notion with which I and transformation-catalyst kindreds resonate deeply.

And it makes me think of what the Black Madonna symbolizes — and resolutely and with fierce compassion, stands for — and what the Great She evokes in us and stirs into embodied remembrance.

It also makes me think of the Power of the Word and the actual, real magic of presence, intention, attention, imagination … the very things that have gotten burgled and co-opted, unless and until we wise up to that and claim them back.

And it brings to mind the straight-talking, provocative, and evocative phrases — and invitations — from the late Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King about Creative Maladjustment and Transformed Nonconformists.

That whole Gen-X (and Kindreds) Phoenixing thing I wrote about recently.

Yep, I’m an associative thinker like that, but I think you’ll see what I mean.

Have a look; see what Laura’s blog musing stirs for you.

Lots of love,
Jamie

Laura Bruno's Blog

…lies somewhere between this:

The United Nations 2030 Agenda decoded: It’s a blueprint for the global enslavement of humanity under the boot of corporate masters

by Mike Adams …
And this:

Yes, pun intended. Truth upon lies upon truth upon lies — a mise en abyme. Yes, I agree with Mike Adams (except his comment that only male energy can save us — imho, we need a return of the Sacred Masculine, as well as the Empowered Feminine.We’ve got plenty of patriarchal BS, thank you very little, but we need the Male Principle to get back in touch with the sacred, and we need women to become empowered in ways beyond putting on a pantsuit and out-aggressing all the men. We also need to recognize that masculine and feminine energies are bigger than sex or gender, and that we each have some masculine and some feminine begging for expression…

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Phoenixing Update: Jupiter and the Shapeshifting Wave

"If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you." ~ Gospel of Thomas, Saying 70... Continue Reading →

Persephone’s Underworld Journey: Deep Feminine Initiation

Persephone, like Inanna, is such an important mythic and archetypal story about the epic Underworld Journey and initiation into our deep-Feminine wisdom. Some of us experience a real-deal Dark Night of the Soul, a true Underworld Journey, as we're shaken... Continue Reading →

A Disturbance in the PsychoSphere – Guest Post

My friend Molly Hall at the Wild Bee Farmlet has shared another insightful and heartful perspective on the energies, questions, and opportunities of now. She writes of a "disturbance in the psycho-sphere," and asks, "Do you believe everything you see... Continue Reading →

Redefining luxury

Kitten, 1900, by William Clarke Wontner.
Kitten, 1900, by William Clarke Wontner.

I’m happy to share this lovely musing from Nimue Brown on ‘Redefining Luxury’.

One part of reclaiming our mojo in various areas of life involves reclaiming and redefining words (and the corresponding actions) that have been co-opted and put in service of the Rat Race.

By reflecting on and reclaiming our own definition of ‘luxury’, we’re also centering in on what truly has value and worth to us (rather than what we’re brainwashed to value regardless of whether it contributes to our own and the collective wellbeing).

This is a natural question for those of us exploring the Taurean-Venus ‘mystery school’ (aka Taurus Rising) in this lifetime, since the soul-expression of Taurus is to explore, define, and take root in what’s truly of worth and what expresses the deepest and truest of all values (vs. the more superficial and transient ones defined by consumption-driven culture).

But regardless of the soul explorations and adventures we’re immersing in, these are questions that invite us all to come home to what matters most to us.

What has value, what feels (and is) of real value and worth to us, and in what simple, often-overlooked ways might we rediscover real luxury and decadence?

Many of my ‘Top 10’ (or 20, or …) simple and rich luxuries would overlap the list that Nimue shares (you’ll find the link to her post below).

Confidences, 1869, by Sir Lawrence Alma-Tadema.
Confidences, 1869, by Sir Lawrence Alma-Tadema.

I’ve added another recent discovery in the comments on Nimue’s post — going ‘minimal or sans electricity after sundown at least several (or more) days a week.

I’ve found that, as much as I love and appreciate technology, this practice feels truly decadent in our over-tronned times!

Another simple-pleasures practice of mine in recent years has been to reclaim the wisdom of my wise woman/man ancestors by learning the ‘wild plant allies’ around me and their nutritional and medicinal gifts to us. Truly rich, and very abundant.

My ‘about Jamie‘ musing includes more of my own appreciated, simple and rich luxuries.

Thanks to Nimue for this lovely post and invitation to reflection and the power of redefining and reclaiming ‘luxury’. You might also want to check out some of her other posts, like “What’s it Worth?”

How about you?

What simple pleasures and natural luxuries have you rediscovered or renewed your appreciation for?

Big Love,
Jamie

Druid Life

Western culture tends to define luxury around items that cost a lot of money, or at a pinch, experiences that cost a lot of money (luxury holidays, mostly). ‘The Good Stuff’ is all about objects, and to afford the objects, or cheaper replicas of the objects, we have to work very hard. The culture of things is not sustainable, our planet cannot keep everyone in the style of an average western household, much less in the style of a household that can afford a lot of luxury goods.

What do you consider to be a luxury? Is it the price tag? Is luxury defined by scarcity? Is it an emotional response to something indulgent? If so, what feels indulgent? If we can redefine luxury, perhaps more of us can get off the treadmill and enjoy living, rather than chasing after objects that will soon become obsolete. Here are ten things…

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The Real Agenda of “So-Called” Education Reform

The Rat Race, from fbcdn-sphotos via Leave the Rat Race (find it on Facebook)
The Rat Race, from fbcdn-sphotos via Leave the Rat Race (find it on Facebook)

In the spirit of the reblog, here’s a powerful piece of truth-speaking from a fellow blogger, Christopher Chase at his Creative by Nature blog.

It reminded me of Nicholas Carr’s book, The Shallows, which made a case for how the unmindful overuse of tech-gadgets was making people, well, stupid.

The book was based on an Atlantic Monthly article Carr wrote, which I blogged about way back when.

But you’ll have to read more of Carr’s work to see just what he means by that (it’s something you’ll likely have noticed yourself).

For now, check out Christopher Chase’s excellent, ‘plain-speaking’ blog post about “the real agenda of so-called education.”

Read on …

Big Love,

Jamie

Creative by Nature

 “What if I told you that the hidden agenda of those controlling public education policy has actually been… to snuff out young people’s natural creativity, curiosity, independence, freedom of thinking and love of learning?”

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For a long time now, we’ve been told by our leaders and the media that our nation’s education problems are caused by bad teachers, low expectations, lazy students and/or unclear national standards. They tell us that by setting higher standards, making school more rigorous, testing students frequently and then firing “bad” teachers we will be able to “fix” our schools.

To put it bluntly, this is nothing but a Big Lie. What if I told you that the hidden agenda of those controlling public education policy has actually been to crush innovation, make children more obedient, force teachers to “dull & dumb down” their instruction, and do whatever else is needed in order to snuff out young people’s natural creativity, curiosity, independence, freedom of thinking and love of learning?

How could this be so? It is so…

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Deconstructing Bully Culture: Shaming Class, Poverty, and Difference; and Those Who Stand

"But human beings are not trash. We are the civilizing force on the planet." ~ Chris Offutt, "Trash Food" I came across a couple of articles this morning that stirred the fire-pot ... you know, that liquid lava center that... Continue Reading →

Focus, Energy, and Shifting Stories

It's more challenging than it sounds, isn't it? This work of shifting dominant stories, whether personal or cultural stories (and for most of us it's both)? The shifting, the uprooting from false ground, has tested me mightily, I admit, and brought... Continue Reading →

Listening to Life and its Holy, Hidden Heart.

"Go where your best prayers take you. Unclench the fists of your spirit ...." “Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it, no less than in the excitement and... Continue Reading →

Chiron and A Shaman’s View of Sensitivity, ‘Mental Illness’, and Spirit-Gifts

“So this is how the healers who are attempting to be born are treated in this culture." "What a loss that a person who is finally being aligned with a power from the other world is just being wasted.” ~... Continue Reading →

Reclaiming Your Power from Unconstructive Criticism

When I saw this article from Rick Hanson, it took all of a nanosecond for me to recognize the pattern he's talking about. It's one that can make me wince just thinking about it, though it's common enough. In the... Continue Reading →

The Ways Narcissists Get Inside Your Head – from Self-Care Haven

My Bad Hair Day, by Anissa Bryant, April 2013. Generously shared in the public domain.
My Bad Hair Day, by Anissa Bryant, April 2013. Generously shared in the public domain.

I linked to Shahida Arabi’s excellent “Five Powerful Ways Abusive Narcissists Get Inside Your Headin my Sophia’s Children post on “When Withholding is a Toxic Tactic” (part of the ongoing Resources for Empaths & Sensitives Series).

But it’s so relevant on a number of levels, reflecting some of the less savory interpersonal dynamics that are considered normal in our interpersonal experiences at home, at work, in the community — and even moreso with a variety of research studies showing a disconcerting rise in Narcissistic behavior over the last 10-15 years.

And Narci (Etc.) tactics are well-honed and very, very effective.

They can leave even the most centered, confident, skillful, aware, and ‘successful’ people feeling spin-cycled, fogged-out, confused, upset, ashamed, and ultimately, a mere shell of themselves (as one Narci-abuse survivor, in our conversation, phrased the effects of being in a relationship with such a person).

As Carrie Barron, M.D., writes in her Psychology Today article aimed at those who were targeted by Narci-Abusers:

“Recent findings indicate they take pleasure in successful manipulations. Putting down unsuspecting, soft-hearted souls in their midst is a sport.”

In hindsight, those who became Narci-prey and were thus Narci-manipulated end up wondering, often with no small degree of internalized self-judgment and shame, “How the heck did that happen?”

Dr. Barron continues: “The transformation of a hopeful, can-do enthusiast into a dismal, wary withdrawer is a form of soul murder. But to those thus violated, take heart. Understanding the complexities of what/who you were dealing with might make you feel better.”

Even people who encounter some of the classic Narci-Abuser behaviors and tactics — if not full-tilt Malignant Narcissists or Socio/Psychopathic types — at work, at home, or in their communities (or online, for that matter), can benefit immensely from recognizing the tactic, becoming more aware, and stepping into more empowered choice rather than unconscious puppet-reaction.

So I wanted to share a couple of other links highlighting Shahida’s work from her Self-Care Haven blog.

She spotlights some of the specific toxic-tactics that, while normalized in a ‘tough love’, bully-centric culture, are actually abusive and harmful.

So it’s wise to have a look and be better able to recognize them as they come up, which gives us the option of practicing into more healthy, self-and-other respecting ways of relating (or choosing to disentangle from chronically disrespectful relationships).

I particularly appreciate that Shahida includes ‘Triangulation’ in her list of toxic-tactics to recognize, along with other common toxic-tactics like ‘gaslighting’ and ‘Hoovering’ (part of the recognized ‘stir and repeat’ Abuse Cycle), as Triangulation a common ploy and yet not as frequently noted.

Find another of Shahida’s Narci-Awareness posts here: 20 NarciPath Tactics to Be Aware of (and awareness is empowering)

https://sophias-children.com/2017/02/24/oh-those-narcipaths-shahidas-20-narci-tactics/

Check out Shahida’s most recent Self-Care Haven post: 5 Powerful Reality Checks for Survivors of Narci-Abuse.

Thanks to Shahida, and to you, my very dear and much-appreciated readers and fellow empaths and Sophia-kindred-spirits!

Big Love,
Jamie

Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

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In popular culture, the term “narcissistic” is thrown about quite loosely, usually referring to vanity and self-absorption. This reduces narcissism to a common quality that everyone possesses and downplays the symptoms demonstrated by people with the actual disorder. While narcissism does exist on a spectrum, narcissism as a full-fledged personality disorder is quite different.

People who meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder or those who have traits of Antisocial Personality Disorder  can operate in extremely manipulative ways within the context of intimate relationships due to their deceitfulness, lack of empathy and their tendency to be interpersonally exploitative. Although I will be focusing on narcissistic abusers in this post, due to the overlap of symptoms in these two disorders, this post can potentially apply to interactions with those who have ASPD to an extent.

It’s important in any kind of relationship that we learn to identify the red flags when interacting with people who display malignant narcissism and/or…

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Un-Erasing ‘Women Who Know’ – Restoring the Ancestral Lineage

In her excellent book, The Woman in the Shaman's Body*, Barbara Tedlock, Ph.D., shares this about the origin and meaning of the word shaman: "The term shaman itself comes from the Evenki language in Siberia, and means "the one who... Continue Reading →

Just. Be. You. What a Relief.

Julia at Painted Path writes this in her recent post, Falling Apart: “Imagine dropping, really setting down, who we think others want us to be, who we think we should be, and just being who we are. Who we already... Continue Reading →

A Luminous Knowing and Wisdom from the Underworld

"The women who have reconnected with their instinctual power have gone beyond the limits of ordinary-world success, whether they have been taken there through loss and suffering into the depths of their being and reborn through touching into their creative... Continue Reading →

Discerning Vocation and Purpose

"What a long time it can take to become the person one has always been. How often in the process we mask ourselves in faces that are not our own? How much dissolving and shaking of ego we must endure... Continue Reading →

The Hidden Beauty (and Spirit) in Relationships

This is an 'evergreen', timeless update from the Sophia's Children archives. Is there a deeper purpose and beauty in relationship than what we might have been conditioned to see? A deeper beauty and richness of possibility that has been obscured... Continue Reading →

A Time for Courageous Dreaming

Here's a theme that's been growing in strength: the importance of reclaiming the power of our focus from the myriad bling-bling distractions, reclaiming the power of our dreaming, so that we can direct more and more of it towards desirable... Continue Reading →

Technology vs. Technosophy – Male, Female, Wisdom and Psychopathy

Alexander Barry, author, actor, and anthrosophist, talks about the crucial difference between our "cosmic autistic psychopathic" technology oriented society and a much more constructive and evolved technosophy oriented potential. “... it could be we’re heading towards a major crisis. The reason is... Continue Reading →

Power Portal – Clear Out the Funk and Notice What Enthralls

Yes, it's that time again, as we head into the 'shadow period' of the upcoming Mercury Retrograde. Despite the perpetual naysaying from the doom-and-gloom-sayers, these and other power portals increase the ease with which we might access certain possibilities. The... Continue Reading →

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